When Sunset Comes too Soon - Remembering a Woman with BAV

Pacific Sunset 

This is written in remembrance of Julie . . . a wife, mother, grandmother, and so much more... I am calling her Julie here, not her real name, to preserve her privacy and that of her family.

She passed away suddenly, unexpectedly, about a month ago, on a day in early January 2022, not very long after saying goodbye to her own fragile, elderly mother in December.

She had no inkling that her own life would not be such a long one, that it would end suddenly that January day. Seemingly neither did anyone else. 

Her husband of over forty years was right there with her when her heart stopped, never to beat again despite all efforts. His love for her and their family enabled him, despite the tremendous shock and grief, to obtain the best private autopsy available. 

Among the findings listed, the pathologist examining her heart found her severely calcified stenotic bicuspid aortic valve and the enlarged left ventricle that had worked so hard to push her blood out to her body.

No one, not Julie, not any of the physicians she had ever seen, knew this about her.

There is one mention in her medical records, in 2018, of a heart murmur - seemingly heard just that once. No echocardiogram was done.

Other than being a "little tired" sometimes, so easily dismissed, there were no symptoms that might have prompted further investigation of her heart.

The autopsy report includes advice to her family to be screened since other blood relatives may be affected - a lifesaving gift to this family from their dearly beloved mother and courageous father, who must carry on without his soulmate. Along with Julie's BAV AS (aortic stenosis), all of the findings the autopsy reveals will help her family understand as much as possible about what caused her sudden death that day. 

It is not the first time I have spoken with someone shocked and grief-stricken by the sudden death of their loved one, where the bicuspid aortic valve, not the aorta is implicated.  Sometimes, as in Chuck Doherty's Sudden Death, Age 34, the presence of a bicuspid aortic valve was known to them and their physicians, but for others like Julie and her family, it remained unknown until after death.

May these deaths inspire us all to continue pressing for diagnosis in the living and greater understanding of those with BAV.

This Heart Month 2022,

 we remember Julie,

 a very special woman,

born with a bicuspid aortic valve, 

whose sun has set too soon. 

~Arlys Velebir,  Bicuspid Aortic Foundation