BAV Lifelong Care - Carrie Mettler's Journey - 2016 to 2021

May 2021 - Life is good!

Background - Carrie's BAV Discovered in Early 1990's

Carrie was born with BAV, but she did not know this until she volunteered to be a guinea pig for a new echocardiogram machine in the early 1990's. There it was - a two-leaflet aortic valve! The next year, after her sister's diagnosis included not just BAV but an ascending aortic aneurysm, Carrie had another echo which showed that her ascending aorta was enlarged also.  

Carrie already had begun her heart journey with the implantation of her first pacemaker in 1989, when she was only 29 years old. In the following years, her pacemaker journey alone has required multiple interventions due to infection, broken pacing leads, and device upgrades. In 2014, open heart surgery was required to address complications caused by pacemaker leads! Carrie had developed Superior Vena Cava (SVC) syndrome, which is obstruction of the blood flow though the superior vena cava. The cause was old pacemaker leads located there and scarring that had developed in this blood vessel over time. During surgery, Carrie's own pericardial tissue was used to enlarge her right atrium and patch her superior vena cava, and the abandoned pacemaker leads were removed.

Here, we focus especially on the most recent five years of Carrie's journey, from 2016 to the present. Carrie began experiencing chest pain/discomfort that year, causing her to seek out the expertise of the Cleveland Clinic. The remainder of this post are are in Carrie's voice, with paragraph captions added.

October 28, 2016 - Chest Pain Prompts a Visit to Cleveland

So off I went for evaluation at Cleveland Clinic.  I flew to Chicago where my little sister, Theresa, picked me up.  We then took an all-day road trip to Ohio.  We spent several days there.  I had an echocardiogram, a CT, labs and EKG.  Once all the tests were completed we met with a cardiologist as well as Dr. Eric Roselli, a cardiothoracic surgeon.  Dr. Roselli viewed the CT result with us, where we were able to view the actual scan.  My aorta was stable and they all felt that it was reasonable for me to continue on with the watch and wait approach.  The chest pain issue was still unsolved so I just had to back off on my running and switch to walking.

 So, over the next several years I kept up to date with my local cardiologist, where serial imaging of my aorta and bicuspid aortic valve remained relatively stable.  Chest discomfort remains unsolved.

March 2019 - Diving Competition, Bee Sting and  Breast Cancer

During a dock diving competition where my little dachshund was competing I was stung by a bee on my left wrist.  Initially the sting was painful but I continued on with the day just feeling tired.  Then I developed a large localized reaction which spread up past my elbow.  After seeing my primary care provider he instructed me that if the redness continued going up my arm that I should go to the ER.  I did end up going to the Emergency Room where I was given appropriate medications and steroids.  The “cellulitis” finally resolved.  It was also deemed that I am allergic to bee venom.

Bee sting reaction!

But something wasn’t right.  I just kept feeling like I had an ache in my left armpit area for a while…then I started feeling pain in my left breast. 

I was watching a nightly national news program one evening and they aired a segment about women with fibrous breast tissue should be screened with 3D mammography.  After seeing this and knowing my mother passed away after a battle with metastatic triple negative breast cancer…I called my PCP and asked if he would order this mammogram for me. 

 I went in for the mammogram the end of April.  The next day my doctor’s office called to tell me that I had a suspicious lesion in my left breast and that I will be scheduled for an ultrasound.   After the ultrasound my PCP called me to let me know I needed to have a biopsy. 

The biopsy was done on May 2^nd.  Four days later, I got the call…You have cancer!  My knees buckled and I felt sick and so frightened.  I got my wits together and went out to where my husband was working in our yard.  It was all so surreal.  Right up there with when I found out I had a brain aneurysm.  All of the results came back, and I indeed had the same cancer that my mother had.  Triple negative breast cancer.

Cancer Surgery and Chemo

There were many appointments and consultations, then finally I had surgery to remove both breasts June 24, 2019.  I spent a few days in the hospital and had the support of my husband, Vic, my sister Theresa and several of my dearest friends.  I actually felt pretty well and was optimistic as no cancer was found in my lymph nodes and the tumor wasn’t too large.  But it was still considered a high grade tumor and I had to be scheduled for 16 weeks of chemotherapy.   Prior to this I had to have a pre-chemo echo…where everything appeared stable.

After discussing everything with my oncologist and surgeon they agreed that I could take the RV trip we planned to our favorite park on the Metolius River in Oregon.  I was very grateful for this time to reflect and be with my husband and my sister by heart, Judi and her husband Greg.  We were also joined by two more dear friends one of which was a retired nurse.  I was in good hands and I felt the trip to be restorative.  

January 2020 - Last chemo treatment

August 5^th 2019     I received my first round of chemo.  Judi was with me for every infusion from then on.  I developed most of the nasty side effects.  Anemia, neutropenia, oral thrush, nausea and hair loss.  We had to postpone several treatments until my labs rebounded.  I also had to have several blood transfusions. 

I was pretty much exhausted most of the time but pushed myself to walk my dogs as much as possible.    In October I had another echo, and my cardiologist told my aortic valve was now mildly stenotic.  Fast forward to December and the aortic valve showed moderate stenosis.  I became more fatigued and short of breath and even after chemo ended in January of 2020 I still could not regain my stamina.  My cardiologist recommend that I work out but I could barely climb a flight of stairs.

 March 2020 - COVID, Fatigue, BAV Severe Stenosis, A New Door Opens!

The Covid 19 Pandemic lock down started.  I was supposed to have the tissue expanders removed and proceed with breast reconstructive surgery.  This procedure was deemed elective and my case was cancelled indefinitely.  I still felt short of breath, and fatigued along with exertional chest discomfort.  Not to mention how uncomfortable the tissue expanders were. Then in May my cardiologist ordered another echo.  My aortic valve stenosis was now severe.  I had mild swelling of my ankles and was becoming depressed and very frustrated. 

One day in August, my husband and I were driving down our road and stopped in to see our relatives that were out in their yard.  This was one of those divine intervention moments.   You see, this family member also has severe aortic stenosis!  Two of us, living on the same road, with the same problem. We talked for a while, and she told me that she had become discouraged with her local cardiologists and finally went to UC Davis in Sacramento, where she felt she receives superior attention.  I told her that I was also frustrated with my care and that my cardiologist of many years was set to retire.  I asked her to get me some contact information the next time she went.  A few days later she stopped by with the TAVR (Transcatheter Aortic Valve Replacement) Nurse coordinator’s card and said “she knows you”!  I looked at the name on the card and couldn’t believe that it was someone I used to work with in a cardiology office where I worked for many years.  She actually helped train me in pacemaker and ICD follow up….and we even had golfed together!  She was expecting my call!  I felt so relieved and thankful! 

 September 1^st 2020 - BAV Needs Replacing, Stable Aorta

Carrie's aorta 
2016 at Cleveland Clinic

Judi picked me up and off we went to UC Davis, where I had another echo and was evaluated by the cardiologist specializing in TAVR. I was also evaluated by a cardiothoracic surgeon and many medical students.

They all agreed that my aortic valve needed to be replaced, but they needed more time to go over the echocardiogram results and the recent CT scan.  Because I had previous open heart surgery for SVC syndrome and also have an ascending aortic aneurysm, I was considered high risk.

I felt very comfortable and confident in my new care team, knowing they would take time to make a treatment plan. Two days later I received a call from the TAVR nurse.  They determined that I was a candidate for TAVR and that my aorta was considered stable. 

 October 5, 2020 - TAVR in Native BAV

I had a transcatheter aortic valve replacement (TAVR) using an Edwards Lifesciences Bovine valve.  Everything went very well and I felt the difference immediately!  My physicians are optimistic that with my new valve, some of the pressure will be taken off of my ascending aorta.  We will continue to monitor my prosthetic valve along with my aneurysm. 

June 2021 - Blessed in the Face of Adversity

Today, I feel very well!  I was finally able to have my breast reconstructive surgery… also at UC Davis.  In fact, I have transferred all of my care to UCD.  My care has been amazing!  Yes the past few years have been a challenge…as they have for all…but again, I would not change a thing.

Feeling blessed in the face of adversity is truly a gift…and I will always be thankful for the bee and the cow that helped save my life! 

Carrie has been with us at BAF since our beginning days,

 and it is our privilege to walk with her always. 

Thank you, Carrie,

 for once again sharing your courage and strength with the world,

and through each experience,

 Creating a Climate of Hope

~Arlys Velebir

                    Bicuspid Aortic Foundation

Also see Carrie Mettler - A Wonderful Athlete with BAV   and 

Carrie in 2016 - Seeking Opinions for a Complex Situation

TAD Awareness 2019 - A Virtual Walk about BAF's Beginnings

September is Thoracic Aortic Disease (TAD) Month. What is it about?  Do we need a month just for TAD? Maybe we can explore this together, on our virtual walk today. This beach is a great place to walk - ocean breezes, blue skies, and the sand beneath our feet! Let me start by telling you my own experience with aneurysms and how the Bicuspid Aortic Foundation was born.

Aneurysm - A Medical Term

 There are technical words -  medical terms - used to accurately describe, communicate, and treat conditions and diseases. Medical textbooks and papers are appropriately written with such words. Thoracic aortic disease has these words, and I try to be very careful to use them properly. The visible indication of disease of the aorta in the chest is the medical term aneurysm, taken from the Greek, meaning widening out or dilatation. Some day maybe there will be other markers to find disease in the aorta even earlier!

My Definition of Aneurysm
For me, the most important meaning is the human experience. And so, on this walk, it is not the technical meaning I want to explore, but the meaning as defined by the lives who have been touched by it. Let me tell you about some of them.

Aneurysm and My Friend
Aneurysm, not in the chest, but in the brain was my first actual experience, my first real understanding, of this word. It entered

Decades have come and gone since
Saying goodbye at my friend's graveside here
She remains in my memories always,
Where she is forever 33

my life on a Sunday afternoon, with a phone call. The message was unbelievable - my friend was hospitalized with bleeding in her brain. Over the next few hours, there was more bleeding, nothing could be done, and gradually her still young body began to fail. She was gone. My memories of something so shocking have not faded. I still hear a little boy, scarcely more than a baby, crying for his mother. I still feel the grass beneath our feet as we walked to the graveside for that final goodbye. My definition of aneurysm stems from this experience - a crying child, a devastated husband - broken hearts forced to go on without someone so loved, so needed. Nothing could be more cruel than such a sudden, deadly killer.

Aneurysm Where?
I continued to be aware of brain aneurysms because of the loss of my friend. Did you know that aneurysms could be in the chest? I didn't. I thought they were in the brain.

Shocked and Terrified - an Aneurysm Above His Heart
When they stumbled upon the aneurysm above my husband's heart, I was shocked. I was terrified. I didn't even know it was possible! Deep inside was that real life definition of aneurysm I had learned years before. I thought this was going to kill him!

How could this be? He was supposedly fixed for life by his valve replacement surgery. I thought somehow they injured him when his BAV was replaced. After all, no one was saying anything to BAVers about aneurysms back then (1990). (They should have, as there were medical papers that associate BAV and aortic aneurysm in the chest - my favorite is Dr. Abbott's paper published in 1928!)

I kept my worst fears inside as we searched for answers. It was difficult, but we found our way to help.

Killer Disarmed by Successful Surgery
Can you imagine the feeling of relief when you are told that a ruthless killer has been disarmed? It was a wonderful, physical sensation that flowed though me, when the nurse told me that the aneurysm was removed, that the surgery had gone very well! Every step to reach that point, to find someone to help us, was so worth it! The aneurysm was gone. I would not find myself prematurely weeping at a graveside because of an aneurysm!

I knew how hard it had been to find that help. My only thought was to make it easier for others to learn about BAV and aneurysms - because when found in time, this killer could be disarmed before causing terrible bleeding inside the chest (dissection, rupture). I had seen it done!

BAF is Born
In time, out of the conviction that accurate information and knowledge can empower us to find help, the Bicuspid Aortic Foundation came into being.

After officially becoming a nonprofit, the first donation the Bicuspid Aortic Foundation received was a check in memory of Doug Grieshop. Doug's widow was the first family to contact us about untimely death from an aneurysm.  Doug had just turned 33 . He left behind his wife, young son and unborn daughter, other family members, and friends. Aneurysms, at their worst, take one life without warning and cause indescribable pain and suffering to those left behind. It is 15 years this September since they lost Doug, in 2004.

BAV and Brain Aneurysm
I know this is supposed to about aneurysms in the chest, this month of  September. Somehow, as we walk together, I am thinking of my friend and fellow board member at BAF, Carrie Mettler. Clicking here,you will find her story about BAV and brain aneurysm.   The discovery and successful treatment of her brain aneurysm is proof that those with aneurysms of the brain need not be terribly injured and lost either, when it is found in time!

Why TAD Awareness?
Doug Grieshop's family was the first to contact us about an aneurysm causing sudden death, but sadly, many others have followed.

We do not want anyone to experience an aortic emergency, 

we do not want to lose anyone else,

which is why there needs to be more awareness. 

 It is still a problem for those at risk to receive proper imaging of their aorta! Less than a year ago, I urged a family friend to request a CT scan of his chest (an echo had found a BAV). The cardiologist refused, saying it was unnecessary! Can you imagine saying it is not necessary to unmask and disarm a killer?! When physicians may not know or understand, it is important to keep seeking help through other opinions. Our friend eventually received the expert screening he needed, elsewhere!

This has turned into a long walk, so let's enjoy the sunset before we leave! 

Thank you for walking with me, 

Remembering those we have lost,

Others who were saved ,

As together, we create a Climate of Hope,

~ Arlys Velebir

                          Bicuspid Aortic Foundation

Carrie in 2016 - Seeking Opinions for a Complex Situation

Carrie Running with Shadow and Stella
Spring 2014

For many with BAV, years may go by with seemingly little or no change. But at some point, it is realized that something was indeed changing inside. It was just that no one, not that person, not their doctors, could detect it. Until one day, whatever was happening can finally be seen. And so it has been for Carrie Mettler.

Carrie in 2014

Carrie first shared her BAV journey with the world here, Carrie Mettler - A Wonderful Athlete with BAV . Beginning with her athletic high school days, through the implantation of a pacemaker in her late 20's, discovery of her BAV and aortic aneurysm, and then her brain aneurysm in late 2003, we read of her amazing triumphs. For the next 10 years after her brain aneurysm surgery in early 2004, Carrie faithfully kept her follow up appointments.  And then it was 2014.

Time for a New Pacemaker

In 2014 Carrie needed to have her pacemaker replaced.  It was decided at that time to upgrade from a single chamber device to a dual chamber model.  They moved the pacemaker from the right side to the left side of her chest, then added two new leads, cutting and capping the old atrial lead.

Carrie tried to resume her normal activity and had difficulty exercising.  It then became difficult for her to even lie flat or bend over.  She felt as if she was being held upside down.  There was obvious neck vein distension along with some facial swelling.  Carrie was sent for a cardiac catheterization, where it was determined that her Superior Vena Cava (SVC) was almost completely blocked.

Carrie Proudly Displaying Ribbons at a Splash Dogs Event
A bulging vein on the left side of her neck is clearly visible.

Carrie underwent surgery to reconstruct her SVC along with the right atrium.  Carrie did remarkably well and was active just 3 weeks post op, walking long distances with her dogs and then running once again a short time later. 

Carrie's Aortic Aneurysm

Then it was time for her next aortic checkup, a routine echocardiogram.  The echo indicted that her aortic aneurysm had enlarged.  Why now, after so many years of being stable? Changes in aortic aneurysms can be unpredictable, which is why it is so important to faithfully keep imaging appointments. 

Could it be due to the increased blood flow after her SVC was repaired?  The surgeon said that the thrombosis and scarring on the lead had been  blocking blood flow for some time. Adding the additional leads caused near complete blockage, giving her the symptoms of Superior Vena Cava Syndrome.  Once this was repaired the blood flow is likely more forceful.

After many years of low blood pressure, Carrie has also had bouts of high blood pressure that have been difficult to control with medication. Could this high pressure also be contributing to a dilating aorta?

Carrie has had some episodes of chest, back and neck discomfort with and without exertion. It is very important to understand what is happening inside.

Carrie in 2016

Carrie, outwardly glowing with health and vitality, is very complex inside. With the encouragement of doctors who have followed her through the years, she is now arranging review of her records by physicians at the Cleveland Clinic. 

Thank you, dear Carrie,

 for sharing your journey with us.

Here at the Bicuspid Aortic Foundation,

 we promise to share each step with you,

 and surround you with a Climate of Hope.

- Arlys Velebir

                         Bicuspid Aortic Foundation

My Love Will Find You - Families with Bicuspid Aortic Valve

This is for everyone who loves someone with Bicuspid Aortic Valve or any form of aortic disease in the chest.

Derek Owens' parents were told about his BAV at birth
He was 16 when he first had surgery

This is especially for Mothers. Mothers of all ages.  Right from the start, they know how special, how talented their child is. At some point, they may learn there is something not quite right inside the heart of their beautiful child. They agonize through the doctor visits, the surgeries. Some Mothers hear those most dreadful words. Their beloved child is gone. Rest assured, there is nothing you could have done to prevent a bicuspid aortic valve. Above all, you give your child what no physician ever can. You give them your love. It is the most wonderful treatment in the world, and you can increase the dose at any time without harm. Yes, it is the greatest healer there is. Your love. Unlimited. Always.

Following are the words of a childrens' book by Nancy Tillman. The pictures are from BAV families.

Wherever You Are, My Love Will Find You

By Nancy Tillman

I wanted you more

 than you ever will know,

 so I sent love to follow

 wherever you go.

It's high as you wish it. It’s quick as an elf.

You'll never outgrow it... 

it stretches itself!

So climb any mountain...

BJ Sanders at Machu Pich

climb up to the sky!

My love will find you.

BJ's dear Mother, who lovingly
follows her daughter's adventures

My love can fly!

BJ celebrating her birthday in 2014. She had surgery a year earlier.

Make a big splash! Go out on a limb!

My love will find you. My love can swim!

Scott Nichols (in blue) was lost to aortic dissection, January 2014

It never gets lost, never fades, never ends...

if you're working...

or playing...

or sitting with friends.

You can dance 'til you're dizzy...

paint 'til you're blue...

There's no place, not one,

that my love can't find you.

Derek Owens has always loved basketball!

And if someday you're lonely,

or someday you're sad,

or strike out at baseball,

or think you've been bad...

just lift up your face, 

Derek in high school

feel the wind in your hair.

Derek Owens and his Mom, Laura

That's me, my sweet baby, my love is right there.

Chuck Doherty lost his life in April 2012
 due to BAV complications

In the green of the grass... in the smell of the sea...

in the clouds floating by... at the top of a tree...

in the sound crickets make at the end of the day...

“You are loved. You are loved. You are loved,” they all say.

Carrie Mettler running a half marathon

Carrie Mettler's beloved Mother, who knew the reality of
having two daughters with BAV

My love is so high, and so wide and

 so deep, it's always right there, even

 when you're asleep.

So hold your head high

 and don't be afraid

Bob Gies following his surgery in 2010.

to march to the front

 of your own parade.

Doug Grieshop on his wedding day 

Doug Grieshop at 2 months

If you're still my small babe

 or you're all grown,

my promise to you

 is you're never alone.

Doug had an undiagnosed BAV. He lost his life to aortic aneurysm
 rupture 10 years ago, on September 20, 2004.

You are my angel, my darling,

 my star... 

and my love will find you

wherever you are.

You are loved.

Bicuspid Aortic Valve and Life on the Edge

BJ Sanders at Machu Picchu
7,970 feet above sea level

Those born with  BAV are

 typically high energy adventurers.

BAVers live their lives on the edge!

Yes, the view is fantastic.

But an aortic crisis lies

 just over that edge.  

The challenge is to keep them 

far enough from the edge to be safe,

and still allow them to enjoy

active, vibrant lives.

The problem is that no one knows

exactly where the edge is!

My dear friend, BJ, recently shared the story of her path to surgery 
after 10 years of watching and waiting. 
I have been privileged to walk along with her 

during this time in her life. 

Below I share my side of the story.

 Earlier this Year

BJ, Arlys, Carrie Mettler (l to r)
I love this picture from a BAF
Conference a few years ago!
Both of these ladies are pictures
 of health, and expert at throwing
 curve balls at their doctors!

"Good morning Arlys....Since today is Sunday I hate to bother you....only if you get a chance could you give me a call....if not I will try to catch you on Monday....Thanks...BJ"

Uh, oh! I sensed trouble behind that message and quickly called my friend. She told me that she had experienced major chest pain. Immediately Dr. Raissi helped her lower her blood pressure, and she began to arrange for an imaging study locally. (It shouldn't have been difficult, but just getting the testing became a major challenge! Not a good situation for a BAVer with symptoms!)

BJ was still experiencing episodes of chest pain, and had made plans to come to LA for a consult (prepared to stay for surgery) when I received the following:

"Hi Arlys, 

I wanted to share with you that I had another episode of chest pain. It scares me that it could possibly be aortic pain. Now I am actually afraid. It is a terrible feeling. I have not lived in fear for a decade. I am really grateful to be coming to LA.... Love you, BJ"

Now, her pain was happening at rest, with low blood pressure, once even waking her out of sleep!

Arlys to BJ:

"Just in case have a plan to say the right thing to get help there in case of emergency. I texted Dr. Raissi as want him to know."

Arlys to herself: 

"BJ is complicated - delicate tissue, diabetes, partially paralyzed diaphragm, possible blood clotting issues . . .  She has got to get here for surgery! She will not survive surgery back there, especially an emergency! We all love her, and her family needs her so..." 

Arlys to Dr. Raissi:

"BJ had another pain episode lasted about 12 minutes and bp was "normal".... Wonder if ... room for even lower pressure? could she come here now . . . .?" Dr. Raissi adjusted her medication yet again, driving her blood pressure even lower. The chest pain did not reappear in the short time before her surgery. I believe strictly lowering her blood pressure kept BJ back from that dangerous edge of aortic tearing/rupture until she had surgery. 

How close to that edge did BJ come?

No one really knows.

BJ saw a physician after she returned home who told her that she really was on the "low end" of the numbers that are used to guide the surgery decision. He implied that maybe she didn't really need surgery yet. I mention this because those guidelines are for patients without chest pain. BJ had chest pain, and the numbers don't matter when the aorta begins "talking". This paper from Yale discusses this: Symptoms Plus Family History Trump Size in Thoracic Aortic Aneurysm

Would BJ have fallen over the edge if she had met and listened to this kind of thinking in her search for help? Remember, it is easy to be in denial. When physicians do not recognize aortic pain, perhaps labeling it anxiety, how close to the edge do people come? I have heard of some that fell over. 

Surgery At Last

BJ's BAV

BJ's ascending aneurysm

I arrived very early on the morning of BJ's surgery. We had spoken, but I was anxious to see her. She looked just wonderful, her expressive brown eyes bright and sparkling.  Even I, who know better, marveled at the need for this surgery. She looked so perfectly healthy! Looks are deceiving when it comes to those with BAV. With beautiful skin and vibrant energy, their youthful appearance portrays someone glowing with health. I reminded myself of what was inside her chest, threatening her life. We had to do this!

Pre-Op and Waiting

For years BJ shared the message of Hope with others. 

Now Hope kept her company after surgery!

In pre-op, BJ had her own little cubicle. I was glad for that private time together. She told me she was at peace, and I knew she was. I was so thankful we had safely reached this moment in her journey. We stood on the threshold of the door to her future, engulfed in a Climate of Hope!  

We waited through the hours of her surgery - her husband, Ron, her son, Judd, and I there at the hospital, knowing many others were there in thought with us. BJ has a lovely family, and it was very easy to be there with them. 

Never Trust a Bicuspid!

At some point, "Never Trust a Bicuspid"  has become my motto. Despite efforts to predict what they will do, people with BAV excel in throwing curve balls! Walking in to see BJ that first time after surgery, I was wondering just what surprises she might have in store. 

Dr. Raissi's patients generally look very good after surgery, even in ICU, but I did not quite like my first glimpse of BJ's face. It wasn't long before I knew why, as she threw that first curve. Bright red blood came pouring from her drain tubes! She chose the right time to do this, with her surgeon standing right there to expertly catch it. What would be next?

The next morning, the word initially was good. BJ was off the respirator and sitting up, right on schedule. I decided to wait until afternoon to see her. I should have known better! It wasn't long until I heard from her son, telling me that BJ was going back on the respirator. My heart dropped all the way to my toes!

I had been afraid of problems with BJ's lungs. Some years before, she had been injured during a surgical procedure on her shoulder, resulting in paralysis on one side of her diaphragm. As I drove those miles to the hospital, I tried not to think of the horror stories about respirators and infection.

So what did I find on arrival? Another curve ball! BJ was sitting up, breathing on her own. As long as I have memory, I will never forget that moment. This was one to be thankful for!

Dr Raissi with BJ in ICU

Seconds before they were to put that tube in, BJ somehow turned a corner! Later, Dr. Raissi told us he could see in BJ's eyes that she was better, despite her "numbers", and asked them to wait. Somehow, in that moment physician and patient understood each other, and BJ dodged the respirator! An indescribable moment. 

When we compare memories now, BJ remembers me being there that day, holding her hand. I remember vividly how happy she was to see me walk in. I also remember her saying how tough it had been that morning.  "It was so hard to breathe...."

I waited for more curves -  problems with healing due to her diabetes perhaps. Thankfully that did not materialize. She did manage to find some other bumps on her road to recovery. It was her very own journey, and like many with BAV, she chose her own path! Being under the care of someone used to catching BAV curve balls made all the difference.

I am very grateful as I write this, retracing her BAV journey, that she cleared every hurdle beautifully. I remember watching her walk while still in ICU, and thinking how strong she is. She needed to be.

Who Are these Complex BAVers?

There are variations in those with BAV, and I believe BJ is one of the more complicated. Perhaps what she has deserves its own name, beyond BAV disease, but no one has such a name. The rods that keep her spine straight, her flexible joints, those difficult pregnancies, volatile blood pressure... all tell us her body is special. It concerns me that all these factors may not be taken into consideration in those with BAV. Someday, perhaps, that will change. For now, BJ received the individualized care that her very special body needed. 

How many others need, but do not receive, that care?

In the final few days of 2013, I am happy to share my view of BJ's experience, and to remember with joy my special friend, safely home with her family and friends once again!

Thank you, 

dear BJ,

 for sharing your life 

with us all,

and

Creating a 

Climate of Hope.

      - Arlys Velebir